This may make you upset, but it’s the truth. How To Get Your Ex Back
I can’t guarantee that you are going to get your ex boyfriend back, I just can’t.
We are dealing with a male human being here and as much as I would love to be
able to just make him get back with you I don’t have the mind control powers that
so many others in this “how to get your ex boyfriend back” community seem to have.
Seriously though, if you see any book, product or article that guarantees that
it can get you your ex back 100% of the time you should stop and realize that
you are probably about to look at something that was made up just to get you
to buy it or read it. Ironically, a lot of the stuff out there that makes these
ridiculous claims offer no value and leave you feeling taken advantage of.
Here Is The Truth
It is impossible to guarantee that you can get a previous boyfriend back 100%
of the time. However, it is possible to significantly raise your chances. The
keyword there being SIGNIFICANTLY and before you get all argumentative I have
seen the tactics outlined on this page work time and time again. It isn’t necessarily
a fast process but there is proof out there to back up the claims being made.
Getting your ex back is going to be tough. This page, while amazingly detailed,
won’t have every single step that you will need to successfully get him back.
It is such a complicated process that even the 10,000 words on this page can’t
cover everything you need to know. I have been running this site for quite some
time and get an incredible amount of emails and comments every single day. Each
person wants me to give them a detailed step by step plan that they can follow
to get their ex back. The fact of the matter is that it is such a complex process
that I really can’t give you everything you need in a post, email, comment or
Don’t worry though, I saw this problem and spent two months creating that step
by step plan people were clamoring for. It took me 20,000 words but I finally
did it! I highly recommend you check it out if you get a chance. Click the link
Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO
What This Page Is About
I am not going to lie to you. I put a lot of work into this page (1 full month
to be exact.) I read relationship books, I took notes on speeches that dating
experts gave, I bought online products, I listened my friends tell me stories
about what they did to reunite with their exes and tested out some of the things
You are going to discover that this page is really long, in-depth but more
importantly, it is going to help you to not only get your boyfriend back but
to rediscover yourself in the process.
Here are some of the things that will be covered:
A Step by Step System To Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back
Helpful Tips To Get Him Running Back
The Best Way To Contact Your Ex
Building Up Your Personal Confidence
What To Do & What Not To Do
What To Do If He Cheated On You
How To Get Him Back If You Cheated On Him
What To Do If He Has A Girlfriend
How To Define Your Dating Goals
(Side Note: The system I have outlined on this page will work for teenagers
in high school, married couples, people who haven’t seen each other in six months
or two years and people who just got out of a long distance relationship. Basically,
I am saying this system is universal!)
I thought the best way to go about the rest of this page would be to take an
in-depth look at each step of the ex recovery process starting with your break
up and what to do immediately after it.
The No Contact Rule
(If you want a more in-depth look at the No Contact Rule please visit this
still thinking about your ex
Ok, before we do any soul searching or serious strategizing you are going to
have to implement the no contact rule.
The No Contact Rule- No texting, talking or stalking your ex for a full month.
That is 30 days of essentially cutting your man out of your life. Remember,
don’t dig into his life and don’t Google + or Facebook him.
If you don’t believe in the no contact rule then all I can say to you is that
you had better start believing in it. Remember above when I said I spent a lot
of time researching this topic? Yea well, I only took a look at credible sources
and every one and I mean EVERY SINGLE ONE recommends the no contact rule.
The no contact rule is done for two reasons.
Right after a break up is when you are at your emotional peak and I don’t mean
a good emotional peak, I am talking about anger, hate, basically everything
that Yoda from Star Wars said to avoid. The no contact rule is going to give
you time to work on yourself and calm down a little bit so you can think more
rationally instead of emotionally.
Your ex boyfriend is probably going to start wondering why you aren’t talking
to him and possibly may even begin to miss you.
He will probably try to call or text you during this no contact period. It
is important that you ignore him.
You may hear from mutual friends that he called you a bad name/s or you may
get the feeling that he hates you or wants nothing to do with you. Don’t worry,
he is emotional and doesn’t mean it. Besides, after 30 days he will change his
Special Cases Where You Have To Contact During No Contact
There are certain special cases where it is pretty much impossible to “ignore”
your ex without seeming like a jerk. Here are those specific cases and what
you should do if you find yourself in them.
If you live with the person- Your goal is to be a respectful roommate. Make
sure any interactions you do have with the person are short, pleasant and to
the point. Make sure you are as positive as possible.
If you have kids together- The last thing you want is to come off like a jerk.
So, if you are in this situation make sure you keep your interactions to a minimum.
Keep things short, simple and positive.
Are you seeing a trend here?
What Caused The Breakup?
Knowing what caused your breakup is important because it can give you an idea
of where your relationship went wrong and how you can possibly correct it in
A Word On Men
(Disclaimer- these views reflect the average male. Not every single male acts
according to these guidelines.)
Typically men don’t like to hurt your feelings. Thus, it is entirely possible
that whatever reason they gave you for the breakup may not be completely true.
I’ll admit that we men sometimes don’t even know why we want out of a relationship
we just do.
However, I would say that the average man will leave a relationship when his
is no longer getting what he needs. No I am not talking about sex here (although
that can lead to problems for some men.) I am talking about admiration.
Men like to be admired for who they are. They love the newness of a relationship,
want respect and like to see significant interest coming from females.
The best way I can describe this phenomenon would be like this:
You just started dating a new guy. You are in that honeymoon phase and everything
is great. You are constantly complimenting him and giving him acknowledgment
that he is wanted by you. Basically he loves hearing that you are interested
in him. However, as time goes on things begin to change. You don’t compliment
him as much because you don’t need to land him anymore. This is when the problems
begin for him.
Another thing that you always hear guys saying is the fact that they are constantly
nagged to death by their girlfriends.
Let me break this down for you…
Nagged To Death = A man looks at this as if his woman no longer is satisfied
with what he has to offer or bring to the table. This doesn’t mean you can’t
always express your feelings you just need to do a better job at mixing them
in with love and admiration for him.
He Broke Up With You?
(For a more in-depth look at what your options are if HE broke up with you
please visit this page.)
reasons for breakup infographic
Getting dumped sucks. I feel for you but don’t worry we are going to take a
look at your breakup and figure out the best way to approach things. Again,
I want to reiterate this point- don’t assume that the reason your ex gave you
for the break up is really why they broke up with you. This may sound a bit
mean but you are going to have to be completely honest with yourself and possibly
look at things that may make you uncomfortable.
Here are some of the most common reasons for break ups:
Your ex boyfriend didn’t feel attracted to you anymore:
Ouch, I know this one must definitely sting to hear but it is a legitimate
REAL reason for why he may have broken up with you. This is a common complaint
among men who are dating someone who let themselves go a little bit in the relationship.
You may have to put in some extra work here but trust me when I say that your
physical appearance is easier to improve than your personality so don’t let
his thoughts get to you.
You ex boyfriend was getting bored with you:
This is another legitimate reason for a breakup. Unfortunately, in my personal
opinion it says more about of his lack of character (unless you were really
boring but I doubt that) than anything you actually did. Luckily, seeming boring
is quite easy to fix!
Your boyfriends emotional and sexual needs weren’t fulfilled by you:
A lot of times this can be happening but you won’t have any clue. Men aren’t
the best communicators especially when it comes to breaking bad news. The last
thing they want is to hurt you so they will just break up with you and give
you some general reason. Luckily again this can be addressed!
Your ex boyfriend doesn’t know what he wants:
In this case it really is the classic line “it’s not you, it’s me.” This one
can be a little harder to come back from but trust me it can be done if you
are smart about how you approach the situation.
(If YOU cheated on your boyfriend then click this link for more information.)
(If HE cheated on you and you want him back click here for more information.)
One of the most popular questions I get around here is “how do I get my ex
boyfriend back if I cheated on him/ if he cheated on me.” First things first,
when it comes to cheating you need to understand one thing. Men and women cheat
for very different reasons.